This is dedicated to all my singles out there especially to my ladies

I know it has been a while since I have written a blog entry, but I am back.  This blog entry will be different from all the other entries.  This is something that doesn’t get talked about in many churches today.  I can talk about this topic because I used to have a major problem with it before and after I became saved.

 I am going to lay this out in the opened because so many people need to hear this and maybe struggling with it now.  It’s time out for me withholding things that Yahweh has delivered me from.  I am praying that if I share my testimony maybe it will help bring deliverance to you or just make you think. 

 SEX! Three little letters that form a word that can cause pleasure and pain. It is almost addictive like drugs.  It’s like a drug because once you do it you want to do it again (just like drugs).   I can truly say that I was very heavily on that drug (sex) for a while. But all thanks be to Yahweh that I am free from it now.   I am not judging anyone because we all make mistakes.  Hello!! I know I have but we also must learn from our mistakes. 

 I am quite sure that we have all heard that sex is supposed to happen after marriage but some of us just let that statement slide right on through our ears ( I am guilty of that).  But have we ever stopped to think about why Yahweh designated sex for after marriage. Was it just another a rule? As for me, no one ever sat me down and told me exactly what happens when two people become intimate with each other.  I didn’t get the true meaning of it until I was about 23 years old.  Once I learned about what sex (fornication) was, it helped me to understand why we sometimes act the way we do.

So let’s get into some scripture:

16 There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” 17 Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever-the kind of sex that can never “become one.” 18 There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. 19 Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. 20 God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

~I Corinthians 6:16-20, The Message 

 (A mouth full right!!!!)

 In verse 16  it says “There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.”

Some may be wondering how sex is such a spiritual thing.  The key thing to remember is “the two become one.”  This means whenever you have sex with someone, you become one in the spirit or you became married to that person in the spirit.  When I grasp that concept, it made me think about how that is one the key reason why so many women stay in relationships with men who dogged them out, simply because they are one/married.

 Women, we get the hit the most when it comes to sex.  In Bishop T. D. Jakes’ book “Woman Thou Art Losed (amazing book, please read)”, he explains that women are receivers meaning that when we have sex with a man,  he leaves a part of him (some spiritual things also) in us.  That’s why it so hard for us to break away from certain people because they are really still apart of you.  In Prophetess Juanita Bynum’s book,  No More Sheets (If you have never read the book or seen the DVD , please, please, please, please get it; it will change your life), she talked about how she was waiting on GOD to send her a husband but GOD said that because she had intercourse with some guys that she had been married too many times already and that she had to get divorces from before she could move on. 

 Not only does fornication (which is sex before marriage even if you are engaged) create spiritual; marriages, it creates soul ties.  Soul ties are very deep.  When you have a soul tie with a person, you will start acting just like that person.  You can also lose your own identity. For example if you were  in a relationship with someone who is abusive, since you have a soul tie with that person, you will attract those same type of men with that abusive spirits. I am quite sure you have asked yourself; why am I attracting the same type of people.  Have you had a divorce from that previous person?  And a true divorce comes through true deliverance. Deliverance only comes through true repentance.

 I know I have had my share of spiritual marriages over the years.  But I said to myself, with a made of mind, that the next marriage I have will be legal on earth and in the spirit.  We also hear the church people talk about fornication but you sometimes need it broken down so it becomes a reality in your life. I pray that as you read this blog, that this goes passed you eyes and into your heart.  I know some of you may think that sex is hard to give up but ask yourself do you really want to be soul tied or married to someone who is not your husband/wife.   

I am not saying that it is as easy as 123 but through Yeshua (Jesus), you can do what you think is impossible because nothing is impossible for Yahweh.

If anyone needs prayer concerning the things I have said, email me at alexander_simone@yahoo.com. 

 Be Blessed!

For the last couple of days, I have been reading the book of Exodus. Since I have started reading it, I find myself gaining more insight and clearing up many misconceptions.  For those of you who are not familiar with Exodus, here is a synopsis.

Exodus is the biblical teaching of how Yahweh used Moses to rescue his people out of Egypt (they were in slavery for 400 hundred years). Once they left Egypt, Yahweh used Moses to teach them about HIS covenant and establish laws (including the Ten Commandments).  Even though Yahweh had done all of this for them, they turned to idol worship, became rebellious and ungrateful.  As a result of their disobedience, they ended up staying in the wilderness longer before they reached the Promise Land.

I know you may be asking yourself, how the book of Exodus can relate/pertain to your life.  First let’s look at the two words Egypt and Exodus.  In relationship to this biblical teaching, Egypt is a type of bondage/slavery/captivity.  The word Exodus is derived from the Greek world exodus meaning “the way out.” There are two words that stand out to me which are bondage and out.  The definition of bondage is “a servitude or subjugation to a controlling person or force.” The word out has so many definitions and uses but I will use the following one, “a way of escaping from an embarrassing or difficult situation.”

Bondages are things that can and will destroy your life.  I think about the show My Strange Addictions. On the show, people have let their addictions take complete control over their lives.  Basically their addictions have turned into their own Egypt. Bondages can be addictions, fears, money, sex, drugs, unforgiveness, people, and low self esteem and so on.   In the book of Exodus (chap. 32), we see that the Israelites still doubted the power of Yahweh (even though he showed them many signs and wonders) by worshiping a gold calf.  Even though they were out of Egypt, they still had that Egyptian mindset because they were so used to it.  When people are in bondage, they can be in complete denial thinking that they don’t have a problem or even thinking that it is the normal thing to do. 

The main goal of the enemy (Satan) is to keep you from knowing who you really are in Yahweh. HE has given us so much power and authority. Luke 10:19 (NLT) states “Look I have given you authority over all power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them.  Nothing will injure you.”   When Yahweh reveals to us who we are, we then become like a weapon of mass destruction to the enemy. Before we receive this power, we have to ask Yahweh, what kind of Egypt we have in our lives and truly desire HIS help to break that bondage. Yahweh does not want his people to be in bondage.  Yahweh desires nothing but the best for HIS people. The same way that HE brought the people of Israel out of Egypt is the same way HE wants you to have “your exodus” from your Egypt.

Please Comment!

“~Be Blessed”

A couple of weeks ago, twitter had a trending topic about turn offs.  I thought it would be interesting to do a post about ten things that turn me off when it comes to men and dating.  Please know that I am not talking about anybody specifically.  I guess I am also giving future prospects a list of warning signals.  I am quite sure that other women out there can definitely relate to some of them.  Also I am not giving guidelines for dating; I am only sharing what does not work for me. Here goes.

1. A man that cannot hold a conversation. I think this goes for men and women.  I like a man that has personality and can at least make me laugh. If you are boring that’s a problem.  Let me tell two things about me regarding this situation. First if I am out on date and the person cannot hold a conversation, I will pull out my phone and txt, BBM, Facebook, Tweet or Email the entire time. Second if I am on the phone with you and you are boring, I will sing the entire time (sometimes I sing even though they are not boring).  So please be able to hold a conversation.

2. Personal Hygiene. If you don’t take care of yourself properly, don’t even bother talking to me.

3. Attention Craver. I don’t like men who demands and craves for attention.  Someone who thinks the world revolves around them or who thinks they are GOD’s gift to the world. PLEASE. There is nothing wrong with having self esteem but it becomes a problem when you just got to have all the attention focused on you.

 4. Lame Pick up Lines.  I rather for you to be yourself than use lame pick up lines. Examples:  (1) Man: How are you doing?  Me: Fine!  Man: I said how are you doing not how you look; (2) Can I touch Hair (Yes someone actually told me this and I looked at them super crazy); (4) It’s getting cold outside, can you teach me how to stay warm.  I could go on and on.  These lines will get you nowhere.

5. A Man that rushes into a relationship. If we go out on one date, that does not mean we are a couple.  It is important to get to know that person before you put a label on it. Let’s just be friends first.  You will learn a lot about a person when you all are friends.

6. Complainer.  A man that complains a lot is such a turn off.  They never have anything to positive to say.  They always complain about not being happy, not having any money, don’t like going to work, and so on. Ugh!! Super turn off.

7. Materialistic Person.  If making money and doing it big is all they think and talk about, it gets old.  Trying to keep up with the Jones’s and not being thankful for what they already have. Using your 26’s and 28’s as a way to catch my attention (in my mind I am thinking that’s lame or I bet he lives at home with his momma #ijs).

8. Potty Mouth.  Everything that comes out of your mouth is curse word.  I like keeping things Rated E. Thank you.

9. Saggin.  If you wear your pants around your ankle you get no play here. I do not like looking at your under garments. GROSS!!!

 10. Desperate.  There is a big difference between being desperate and pursuing.  I don’t like it when a person calls or txt me every 5 min (Really?!?! Border line stalker).  Asking me everyday do I like you as a boyfriend is not cute! It makes me like you even less and decreases your chances. I need my space and being under you 24-7 is not the business.

Well I hope that you enjoyed these.  Be sure to leave comments.

Have a blessed day!!!!

This is to my beautiful Queens out there in the world.  Being on facebook and twitter, I see so much that concerns me about us.  I am not judging anyone or calling anyone out, this is how I feel and I think these things are so needed to be said.  If you are my facebook friend, you will see some of my statuses in this post.   Here goes:

(1)    Dress for Success:  The way we dress can say a lot about us as individuals.  Some of us believe that the less we wear, the more attention we will get.  My motto is if you dress like trash you will attract trash.  Most men do not respect women who dress half naked.  On the other hand, if you put yourself out there like that, then they will treat you that way.  There are plenty of ways to dress nice without letting it all hang out.  If you can’t bend over in it, don’t wear it.

(2)    Potty Mouth:  I used to have this problem but thank God I don’t have it anymore.  We have to stop calling ourselves and each other B’s.  If we label ourselves as B’s, it gives men permission to call us that also.  Another thing is that we have to stop having a potty mouth. You can be very beautiful but you can turn ugly instantly once you open your mouth.  The more respect you give, the more you will earn.

(3)    Single and Content:  Ladies, if you are single, it is so important to be content.  I know a lot of us desire mates/husbands, but during this time we need to work on ourselves.  For example, if you can’t cook, now is the time to learn.  We really need to fall in love with God and be busy for him until he sends us our mates.  I know it may seems as if God has forgotten about you, trust me, he hasn’t.  He will send us HIS best and not the world’s best.

(4)    Don’t Settle for Less:  I see so many women settle for less.  So many of us will take any man just to say we have someone.  Is it really that serious?? I have seen so many people in relationships that are so miserable but in their minds, it is love.  It’s time for us to stop settling for less.  I always say I rather be happy and lonely instead of being in relationship where I am still sad and lonely. 

(5)    Have a Positive Inner Circle:  You know the saying, “birds of a feather flock together”.  It is important to have positive friends who are going to help you do better and tell you the truth no matter what.  Be very careful of the company you keep.  If you are always the positive person in your circle, then you need to change the scenery.

I hope that this will help someone.  I did not write this to offend anyone. I feel like people don’t talk about this enough so I will.   This is only the beginning.  I will be pointing out more.

Thanks for reading.  Please comment.

“His Instrument”

Before I began, say anything, I would like to give thanks and praises to the great I AM. It is because of HIM I am who I am today.  I am Simone Alexander.  I am a southern belle from Union Springs (USA representing).  I am PROUD product of Alabama A&M University (GO BULLDOGS!).  I am currently in the Master’s program at the University of South Alabama (GO JAGUARS!) studying Instructional Design and Development.  Once I am done with school, I plan to work in the industry and open up an after school program for grades K-12 (By the way, I am taking donations for that now! LOL!).

What to expect from this Blog?   You can expect a lot.  I will talk about things that I hope I will touch people and blessed them at the same time.  But the most important things that I will talk about is whatever God places on my heart.

Thanks for stopping by and reading. 

“His Instrument”

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